A 30-second self-check for your next decision.
He was selling his business.
His first concern was his nervous system.
Yesterday I met with a man who is selling his business.
I asked him: If you were getting into this kind of business again, what questions would you ask first?
He gave me two:
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As the owner-operator, what would my day actually look like day to day?
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What would the cost be to my nervous system of running this business?
That second question is rare. It is also the one that decides your real freedom.
Freedom is not your calendar.
Freedom is not your bank balance.
Freedom is your internal state.
From a neuroscience perspective, your nervous system is always scanning: safe or not safe?
When your system spends too much time in “not safe”:
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Your thinking brain goes offline faster (decision fatigue, short fuse, overthinking).
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Your behaviour defaults to protection (avoidance, control, people-pleasing).
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Your capacity shrinks even as your ambition remains high, making burnout a real risk.
A business can look successful on paper while quietly draining the person running it.
A 30-second Freedom Check
Ask yourself:
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What does my body feel like on a normal workday? (tight, calm, braced, heavy, open)
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What happens to me under pressure? (clearer, frantic, avoidant, controlling, reactive)
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What is the price I pay to keep it all moving? (sleep, mood, health, relationships, patience)
If your body is paying the price, freedom is leaking.
Try this now (60 seconds)
Inhale for 4.
Exhale for 6.
Repeat five times.
Longer exhale tells your nervous system “safe enough”, which keeps your thinking brain online.
Your next step
Take the Freedom Score™ Assessment (4minutes) and identify your biggest freedom leak today. It pinpoints your biggest freedom leak across five pillars, including Nervous System Care, and offers a clear next step.
Optional extra supports I use personally (quietly powerful)
- Focus support (nootropics): I use targeted supplementation to support clean focus and mental stamina when life is full. The goal is cognitive support, not hype.
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- Skin ceremony: A simple morning or evening ceremony is sensory regulation. Touch + repetition signals safety and self-respect to the brain, especially during high-output seasons. This is how confidence shows up on your face.
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Much love,
tan!a xo
P.S. Start with the Freedom Score™ Assessment. It will show you where to focus first.
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