Have you ever been convinced that this one thing is the reason you can’t move forward?
“If I just had more time…”
“If I had more support…”
“If the timing were right…”
“If I had the money…”
I hear these all the time — and I’ve said them myself.
Here’s the thing: those usually aren’t the real problems.
They’re surface problems — the ones that sound logical, feel valid, and are easy to explain.
And yet… weeks, months, sometimes years can pass, and nothing shifts.
Why?
Because the deeper barrier isn’t time, money or timing.
It’s the belief underneath.
The invisible agreements running your life
I call these hidden beliefs agreements — unconscious things we’ve decided to be true about ourselves, the world, and how we’re allowed to show up in it.
You’ll hear these agreements in your language.
For example, I’ve worked with people who feel blocked around money and wealth creation. On the surface, they’re doing “all the right things.” Yet when we dig deeper, we find phrases like:
“Rich people are greedy.”
That belief often takes root in childhood — and since greedy is “bad,” they subconsciously agree:
“I’ll never be greedy.”
Which becomes the self fulfilling prophecy: “I’ll never be rich.”
Here's another example that comes up
“Thin girls are stuck up.”
So the agreement becomes: “I don’t want to be seen as stuck up… so I’ll never be thin.”
And one that hits home for many female entrepreneurs:
“Men don’t like women who are too ambitious or successful.”
Cue the quiet agreement: “I don’t want to end up alone… so I’ll never be too successful.”
These hidden agreements create a self-fulfilling cycle that constantly pulls us back towards the very thing we don't want that is, until we become aware of its existence.
You are more loyal to your agreements than your goals
Without realising it, you are more committed to these inner agreements than to the outer goals you set.
And they become self-fulfilling.
You build your business, it gains momentum — and then, a major client cancels.
You finally get into a good wellness routine — and then injury, illness, or exhaustion strikes.
From the outside, it looks like bad luck.
On the inside, it’s your agreement quietly pulling the strings.
Want to uncover your own agreements?
I’ve developed a simple but powerful model to help my clients uncover and rewire these subconscious commitments.
It starts with paying attention to the stories, phrases and justifications that sound like these;
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“If I really go all in, I might fail — and everyone will see.”
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“I’m scared I’ll outgrow the people I love.”
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“Success might cost me the peace I’ve worked so hard for.”
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“If I put myself out there, I might be judged.”
When we stay at the surface, we work hard to solve the wrong problem.
And it’s exhausting... Like rearranging furniture when the foundation is cracked. In order to get to the foundation, you must dig deeper....
It's time to go deeper
Take a moment to finish one of these sentences — and be honest (nobody's looking):
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Rich people are…
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Successful women (are/have/can’t)…
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Thin women…
Now ask yourself:
What’s the real agreement hiding beneath the surface excuse I’ve been telling myself?
And am I ready to let it go — and replace it with a new, more empowering agreement?
Once you name it, you can move it. Awareness comes before change.
When you move it, momentum follows.
You deserve clarity.
You deserve growth.
And you deserve a life that reflects what you’re really capable of.
If this resonated with you, reply and tell me what came up —I’d love to hear.
💬 Ready to rewrite your inner agreements for good?
I coach high-performing women who are tired of hitting invisible walls and who are ready to break free from the beliefs, patterns, and emotional contracts holding them back.
If you’re ready to finally shift:
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Your relationship with money
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Your body and wellbeing
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Your business growth
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Your sense of self-worth and identity
Then my 1:1 coaching might be exactly what you need.
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